'If she's still on her phone when you come back, you're done': Single guy ditches non-stop texter on first date for ignoring him, now she has to pay the bill

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Oct 21, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

These days, it feels like there are more red flags than green ones when you're on a first date. Perhaps you have a mental checklist in your mind. Are they human? Are they single? Do they have a 401k? Each singleton has their own personalized criteria. 

However, one thing that feels pretty universally unacceptable in this day and age is a non-stop texter. After all, you have both presumably gone through the trouble of incessant swiping on dating apps, putting up with surface-level initial messages, and clearing both of your schedules to set up a time to actually meet face-to-face. The last thing anyone should want in this situation is to have a one-sided conversation with someone who won't listen or take notice of you.

That's what happened to this Redditor, who tried numerous times to suggest to his date across the table that she was behaving poorly, to no avail. Eventually, he decided to go to the bathroom and he told himself that if he saw that she was still texting when he got out, he would walk out of the side door of the restaurant and leave her to pay the bill. Not exactly the most chivalrous move, but we're inclined to believe that this was earned.

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    Left girl with a $80 bar tab after being a dissociated
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    When I was single and dating in a large major US city, I met up with a girl at a bar for drinks after she and I met on a dating app and she expressed interest. I come from the traditional school of dating
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    protocol so I tend to assume that my job (as the man) is to make sure my date feels safe and has a good time, regardless of whether or not we have chemistry or it leads to things. It's like, we both made the effort to get dressed up,
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    look nice, come out, give each other a chance... if it doesn't exactly work out, you want to respect that someone accepted your invitation and tried.
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    Except for this vapid moral monstrosity. We get a table, I try to open things up but she sits there texting for five minutes while we're waiting for our order-- occasional
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    apologies but basically just not looking at me and attention span of a gnat. We start talking finally and then she starts answering her buzzing phone again. I'm trying to joke about it at first and then it just gets painfully awkward... like what the are you doing, do you even see yourself? I have value too.
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    We get our drinks, I try to restart the conversation. I make a low- level joke about how I'm going to throw it out the window; she doesn't take the hint.
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    I order us two more drinks and an app and then I realize I'm miserable. I down my drink and hit the loo. On my way out, the little gremlin in my head says, "If she's still on her phone when you come out, you're done." She is. I look the other way and there's a service door open behind the kitchen. I turn right instead of left and exit into the sweet, sweet air of freedom.
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    30 minutes later she texts: "Did you leave?" Guess I should have texted. Edit: Wow, obviously I touched a nerve. Who knew. Regarding how I should've paid my half or talked to the server or something, ok I take your point, but it was kind of a spur of the moment decision and I assumed she would pay. I didn't think of it as "dine and dash", I
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    thought of it as "You assumed I would pay, and I would have, but you overplayed your hand so now I assuming you will pay." What she did, I don't know, but to the people calling it "theft", I think you're reaching.
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    Anita2553 1 day ago The fact that it took her half an hour to check if you left shows just how little she cared about your presence
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    AlexDavid1605. 1 day ago I think she only "noticed" because one of the wait-staff saw her sitting alone and no one has paid the bill and they enquired about it. If they hadn't intervened, she may have sat there till closing time...
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    z-eldapin 1 day ago 30 minutes later lol.
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    blarch 1 day ago Should have responded with "I left because you didn't show up."
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    dancness 1 day ago She was there to get a free dinner, that's all. And you played the reverse Uno card. Well done
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    alamcc 1 day ago "Guess I should have texted", killer line.
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    jbae_94 1 day ago Should've told her you needed another 30
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    Agent7619 1 day ago there's a service door open behind the kitchen Coulda left through the front door, she wouldn't have noticed.
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    Forsaken-Yak-7581. 1 day ago I think it's safe to say she wasn't the one...
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    Fudouri 1 day ago • So most of it is bad on her part. That being said, I feel like I have never came back to a table and not have the person on the phone. If there was a time for them to be on the phone, it's then. Did you expect her to stare at the restroom watching when you come back?
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    Comfortable-Elk-850. 1 day ago Too bad people can't leave date reviews on those dating apps too.
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    Vegan_Digital_Artist. 1 day ago Good on you, she deserved it. I would've been confrontational "if this is a hang out and not a date, I can split the bill because I'm here to take you out, not your phone."
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